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leadership

February 14, 2008

Sometimes, I really really dread going to school. So much so that I start to question WHY I went back to school. Tonight though was one of those nights were I really understood and appreciated being back in school.

My professor invited Mr. Rapa Lopa (co-founder of Pulse Asia) to speak to our class. He discussed with us what Pulse Asia does and about some of the ideas behind his other projects like ‘Hapinoy‘.

Mr. Lopa’s message was of optimism and hope. He said we have to get out of our comfort zones to seek the grace of courage. It takes very little to make a change but before we can make change, we have to be AWARE of what is going on.

In the Philippines, the example given and acknowledged is that compared to other countries, we have complicated political and economical problems. A part of the reason for this is because Filipino’s in general, only have concern for their immediate family units. In general, the majority of Filipino’s show no concern for the country as whole. The political and economical problems become such a standard way of living that people now choose to tune these issues out of their daily lives.

But, the truth is that although the problem may seem large, there is still hope and a reason to be optimistic because there are many things we can do to help. Even the smallest actions have a ripple effect that may truly result in something with a bigger and greater impact.

The talk really tied together the lessons we’ve been trying to cover all semester:

self + context = response

’self’ is about understanding ourselves. Why we are the way we are. For me, the idea here is that you cannot give what you do not have. If you don’t have a good understanding of who you are, how could you even begin to understand others? A good exercise that we’ve used this semester to learn more about ourselves is the Enneagram.

‘context’ is about understanding that there is a need greater than your own and knowing that there is something you can give back. It doesn’t have to be something big. In our class, we’re learning to determine and better understand our individual contexts through the genogram and lifebook exercises. One of my favorite statements to explain ‘context’: to much is given, much is asked.

‘response’ is what happens when we take our ’selfs’ and place it in the proper ‘context’. The idea is to understand that despite our own needs, we transcend them for a cause and a reason far greater than ourselves. The response should also not feel forced but something so natural that it almost feels ‘like breathing’.

Bottomline, ‘leadership’ is defined by the quality of the response. It is not about the degree of your influence that is caused by your leadership. We cannot judge based on impact alone because there is a ripple effect to everything we do. (basically, walang judge-jadjan!)

Wanting to be a good leader and providing a good response is a personal choice. It’s comes down to what you believe in and what your principles are. What examples do you want to be for your kids?

so what can we do?

It can be as simple as donating to a charitable organization in need. If money is the issue, give what you can by volunteering. Giving up something that may seem trivial to you may actually have a big impact.

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material wishes

February 12, 2008
  1. Lomo Color Splash Flash
  2. Fuji Instax Mini
  3. Pentab (with item #4)
  4. MacBook (with item #3)
  5. Duyan
  6. Flip (or some other simple flash memory camcorder)

(not in order of importance or priority :) )

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Hillary

February 6, 2008

Democrats of the US should be grateful that for this election, choosing their Presidential nominee is turning out to be so exciting! Either way, history will be made in 2008 and I think the Democrats will take it all the way so it’s really a win-win situation. Right now, it’s just like watching a football game and both teams have been tied throughout the first 3 quarters and it’s now reaching the 4th quarter. Wowoweee!

So who would I vote for? Hillary all the way! As she said (I think), ‘it took a Clinton to clean-up after the first Bush and it’ll take another Clinton to clean-up after the second Bush’. Taking the serious issues aside for the purposes of this blog, how much pressure cool would that be for Chelsea?! Plus there’s the whole Bill factor…boy, have I missed good ‘ol Bill.

Anyway, I’ve always had an infatuation with women in power. Some of the female leaders whom I have been fortunate enough to have met can not only do what their men counterparts can do but much MORE because they are female. One specific example I have observed is that they can play with more emotions than what most male leaders are capable of.

To be a woman and to excel in the corporate world is not an easy thing to do. But for those who have successfully done so by gaining the respect of their colleagues and at the same time have managed their personal lives well enough to have the right ‘balance’…wow!

I’m not saying Hillary is one of these women. She is far from being my idol and I don’t think there’s anything that would make me want to trade places with her. However, if when she gets elected as the first female President of the United States of America, she will validate all the other women in similar positions. She will serve as an example to show that women are capable of being GOOD leaders.

This is one of the remaining glass ceilings that must be broken and I can’t wait for it to happen!

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how do you know…

January 27, 2008

when to jump and make that big commitment?

A commitment that entails looking forward many, many years. So many in fact that thinking that far ahead and where I’ll be at that time scares me.

As much as I’ve wanted to, I’ve never really had a predictable life. I like going with-the-flow, being impulsive, and I’ve learned that there’s a lot of things in life that are uncontrollable. At this point, I can’t even plan a vacation a couple of months from now because I can’t imagine what life would be like by then.

But maybe now is the time to jump. Because, I know that if I don’t do this now, it’ll just get harder to do in the future.

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success…

January 21, 2008

…is having self-worth.

A friend reminded me about valuing one’s self. Sure, we were drinking at the time but he had a very good point. It’s about being happy with yourself and being happy with what you’re doing in life. As long as you’re being yourself, if you know you’re doing your best, if you love and appreciate yourself, no one should be able to convince you otherwise.

For me, once you learn to value your self-worth, you’ve succeeded in life. It’s as simple as that because everything else important will follow. But without it, you’re just a lost soul.

Anyone who dares to disagree with your self-worth is just not worth having. Period.

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i want to be

January 20, 2008

Not taking into consideration finances, logistics, talent, and all that crap stuff, here are some things that I would like to be:

  • a chef
  • a traveller (and get paid for it!)
  • an anthropologist
  • a musician

what do you want to be? :)

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three truths and a lie

January 15, 2008

This is a game called ‘three truths and a lie’. It is usually used as an ice-breaker used for a group of people to get-to-know each other. So here goes…I’ve listed four things below. Three are true and one is a lie. Can you figure out which one is the lie? :)

  • I am easily star-struck
  • I am shy
  • I like taking pictures
  • I am a stalker

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I didn’t even know the name of the guy behind me…all I know is that he’s from the Philippines team of the Amazing Race Asia (season 2) show and I got all giddy and ‘kilig’ when I realized that he was sitting behind me at Starbucks.

To top it all off, he was joined at his table by Leo! Yiheeeeeeeeeeeee!

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India

January 14, 2008

gateway to India India, the land of PLENTY.

We went to Mumbai (formerly known as Bombay) where there were plenty of people, plenty of spices, plenty of traffic, plenty of birds, plenty of scams, plenty of dogs, and plenty of things to buy! Too bad I didn’t have plenty of TIME.

The food was great! Don’t ask me what the dishes were called (because I don’t remember) but most of them definitely tingled the taste buds. Yum!

The women wore beautifully colored sarees and it made me so envious that I ended up buying one on the first day! I just wish I’ll have an opportunity to wear it sometime soon. :)

Since we were only there for a few days and worked most of the time, this is a place that I would love to come back to. For the shopping and to be able to explore the other parts of the country that we didn’t get to see…especially to see the Taj Mahal.

Anyway, it was really great to be able to see another glimpse of how people in other places LIVE. It is always wonderful to be able to be a part of another world, even if it were only for a few days and to realize that the world we live in is HUGE.

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new year

January 6, 2008

fountain

it’s still early in January so I guess a blog about new year’s resolutions is still applicable.

well…that is if I had any to share. :p

I’m really excited about 2008. I have a good feeling about this year (and yes, this is me trying to get positivism to work). I have a lot of new year’s resolutions that I would like to change/improve on about myself and in general, do better this year…but when I try to list it down, it’s hard to do.

But, I’m not worried. I think just the fact that I have a conscious effort to have a better year and be a better person is already half the battle! The rest of the battle is just to keep remembering the goal for improvements and continue to WANT to be a better person.

Happy 2008 everybody! It’s going to be gr8t!

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smoking kills

January 3, 2008

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…just in case you didn’t know already.

saw this at a Duty Free shop.